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Break Free from Perfectionism in 2024



Athletes and coaches often chase perfection, believing it's the key to success. But what if their relentless pursuit of flawlessness is actually holding them back? In this article we will take a look at the world of perfectionism in sports, understand its impact, and discover strategies to break free from its grip.


Understanding Perfectionism

Perfectionism isn’t just about setting high standards; it’s a mindset that demands flawless performance in every aspect of life. It comes in various forms, from setting impossibly high personal standards to imposing them on others or feeling pressured by societal expectations.

While striving for excellence isn't inherently negative, perfectionism becomes problematic when it leads to:


  • Chronic stress and anxiety

  • Procrastination or avoidance of tasks

  • Negative impacts on mental health

  • Impaired relationships


Impact on Performance

In the realm of sports, perfectionism affects athletes' mental health and performance. Fear of failure, rigid training routines, overtraining, self-criticism, and performance anxiety are some of its detrimental effects. Coaches, too, can inadvertently foster pressure-centric environments, emphasizing outcomes over growth and development.

In Athletic Performance:


  • Fear of Failure: Fear making mistakes or not meeting their own high standards, leading to anxiety and hesitation during competition.

  • Rigidity in Training: Adhere strictly to routines or training methods, resisting change for fear of deviating from what they perceive as the perfect regimen.

  • Overtraining: Push themselves excessively in training, believing that more effort will result in flawlessness, leading to burnout, fatigue, or injuries.

  • Self-Criticism: Excessively criticize themselves after making even minor errors, impacting their confidence and focus during performance.

  • Performance Blocks: Can lead to performance anxiety, causing athletes to underperform or choke under pressure during crucial moments.


In Coaching Styles:


  • High Expectations: Set unrealistic standards for their athletes, expecting flawless execution and minimal errors.

  • Pressure-Centric Coaching: Inadvertently create environments where athletes feel immense pressure to perform perfectly, leading to stress and anxiety.

  • Inflexibility: Resistant to change or new ideas, sticking rigidly to their methods without considering alternative approaches.

  • Overemphasis on Results: Prioritize winning or achieving specific outcomes over the athletes' overall growth, potentially neglecting the development of skills or fostering a healthy team dynamic.

  • Criticism-Oriented Feedback: Focus on pointing out mistakes without providing constructive feedback or acknowledging efforts.


Perfectionism in Action

In my university days, the pressure to excel in every area impacted not just my performance in games but also my mental and emotional well-being outside of the rink. If someone had told me I was a perfectionist, I would have denied it because I had a deep misunderstanding of what perfectionism was. 


Perfectionism shows up differently for everyone and for me this manifested as setting unrealistic expectations of myself in athletics, academics, and community involvement. I was on the ice 6 days/week, in the gym 2-3 days, managing a full course load, staying up late to study and finish essays, was actively involved in the Student-Athlete Council and organizing charity drives in my spare time. 


In the moment, I didn't think there was anything wrong. I felt productive and was proud that I was 'balancing' such a heavy schedule and workload and still performing well. However, this was not sustainable in the long-term and ended up negatively impacting my performance on the ice and in the classroom, and even worse my mental health.


Strategies to Leave Perfectionism Behind

Understanding where perfectionism stems from is key in devising effective coping mechanisms. Here are a few strategies to help you leave your maladaptive perfectionist thinking in 2023:

Embrace Imperfection:


  • Understand that mistakes and setbacks are part of the learning process. See them as opportunities for growth and improvement.

  • Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with understanding and kindness, especially when facing challenges or failures.


Reframe Thoughts and Perceptions:


  • Challenge all-or-nothing thinking by reframing situations. Acknowledge the gray areas between success and failure (progress).

  • Replace critical thoughts with more balanced and realistic self-talk - would you talk to a teammate this way?


Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Care:


  • Establish boundaries to prevent overworking or overtraining. Prioritize rest, recovery, and self-care to maintain physical and mental well-being.

  • Engage in activities outside of the sport that bring joy and relaxation, fostering a balanced lifestyle.


Implementing Change in Training and Coaching

Strategies are no good if you don't practice them. Both athletes and coaches hold the power to create environments that celebrate effort over perfection.


Set Realistic Expectations: 


  • Set challenging yet achievable goals, emphasizing progress and effort rather than flawless performance.


Promote a Growth Mindset: 


  • Emphasize the importance of learning, improvement, and resilience over an unattainable standard of perfection.

  • Praise athletes for their dedication, hard work, and strategies they use to overcome challenges rather than solely focusing on outcomes.


Provide Constructive Feedback:


  • Offer feedback that is specific, constructive, and growth-oriented, highlighting areas for improvement while acknowledging strengths.

  • See feedback as a tool for growth rather than a judgment of their worth.


Create a Safe Environment for Mistakes:


  • Normalize mistakes as part of the learning process. Emphasize that making errors is an opportunity to learn and grow.

  • Encourage an open dialogue where athletes feel comfortable discussing their struggles or mistakes without fear of judgment.


Create a Supportive Team Environment:


  • Foster a team culture that celebrates each other's successes, supports one another during challenges, and encourages a growth mindset.

  • Encourage teammates to provide constructive support and feedback to each other.


Individualize Coaching Approaches:


  • Recognize that each athlete is different and may respond uniquely to feedback and coaching methods. Tailor your approach to best support each athlete's needs and personality



Embracing imperfection in sports is a journey toward growth, resilience, and better performance. Step into 2024 with confidence by implementing these strategies, fostering a supportive and growth-oriented sports environment.


Whether you're an athlete or a coach, optimizing your mental game is vital for peak performance. If you’re eager to learn more about performance coaching and how it can elevate your game in 2024, let's connect. Learn more at Taylored Minds or Book a discovery call to gear up for your best year yet.

Remember, the pursuit of excellence shouldn’t come at the cost of mental well-being. Embrace imperfection, strive for progress, and watch how it transforms your journey in sports.


This newsletter is in association with The Athletic Mind podcast. You can listen to the full episode here


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